We recently had the chance to connect with Amber Evereteze and have shared our conversation below.
Amber, it’s always a pleasure to learn from you and your journey. Let’s start with a bit of a warmup: What’s more important to you—intelligence, energy, or integrity?
Energy for sure! Energy is how I trust without communicating, feel without saying and lead without knowing. Intelligence and integrity are just as important but without energy it will always be missing something. Energy also for me, represents passion and how fulfilling it can be when the two are aligned. In essence, energy is magnetic and contagious so it also something to carry highly and I try to be aware of how my energy can come off. Energy is the first thing people feel and the last things that lingers.
Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
A newbie in the world of blogging but not a stranger to helping others find their voice through multiple mediums, I am happy to currently write for my blog, Lost Yet Living on Substack. Previously a podcaster for Soulful Essence, a lifestyle podcast during the time that I was in college, but as of now, I have transitioned to the world of blogging. Lost yet Living is about embracing your journey to find your inner voice. I navigate real-life experiences that have happened to me to the person I am today. It’s a place where the reality of grief, heartbreak, relationship dynamics, career shifts, and unexpected change is explored. I narrate triumphant stories of how I lost myself to now living for myself. Blogging is not only a form of self-expression, but I have made it my intention to write my stories as a way to relate to others. My goal is to create a place of solace while helping others navigate difficult times.
Currently, my blogs are usually posted weekly, sometimes biweekly, depending on the week. I plan to continue writing and reaching more people and eventually host writing workshops for others to tap into their inner voice as well.
Okay, so here’s a deep one: What’s a moment that really shaped how you see the world?
I would say the moment that really shaped how I saw the world was losing my mother in 2020. It made me realize how important it is not to let stress linger in your body. She passed from stress, and how much she held in, in return, affected her personal health. From that moment on, I realized how important it is to express yourself, have a community that propels you, and the importance of connecting with a therapist. Grief opened up a deeper need to release than talking to others, which led me to write my blog. Lost yet Living has been a divine way for me to connect to deeper parts of myself, and a space to articulate my deepest thoughts without the fear of it being “too much”. Losing someone like a parent can seem impossible to come back from, but it has continued to show me how strong I am and how I have grown. It opened my heart to love others deeply, be selfless in my approach to life, and how important it is to live in a state of gratitude.
When did you stop hiding your pain and start using it as power?
Honestly, I would say this has been one of the most transformative years of my life because I realized that feeling deep emotions is such a beautiful thing. Another big part of my life that helped me stop hiding in pain was my ability to move into a new state in less than a month. I knew that moving somewhere where my family was not would resurface a lot of pain that I had powered through when I was in a place with the support nearby. This time, I allowed my pain to be fully exposed, which …whew, it hurt a lot, but I knew it was needed. The realness and rawness of that type of vulnerability made me realize that it was just way too much to keep in and had a purpose. Growing up, I have always enjoyed writing as an outlet, but I quickly lost touch with it after high school. Life has a funny way of sometimes taking you away from the very thing that heals you the most. Experiencing so much grief and transitions in such a short period of time taught me that the pain that I was feeling had been preparing me to be more powerful.
A friend once told me, It’s not the pain that hinders us, it’s the meaning we place on the pain. Learning to navigate through the scenarios that I thought I would never recover from revealed how important it is not to place so much meaning on things that were not meant to hold us back forever. Pain creates purpose, and purpose initiates power.
So a lot of these questions go deep, but if you are open to it, we’ve got a few more questions that we’d love to get your take on. What do you believe is true but cannot prove?
We all come back to our first passion, if we allow it to be. As humans, we are naturally curious about what the world has to offer, and the different things that are introduced to us. I think one of the most valuable things I noticed was paying attention to the things that first brought me joy. For me, that was the arts and creative writing, the joy of dance, and the freedom of creative writing provided me
Okay, so before we go, let’s tackle one more area. When do you feel most at peace?
I absolutely love this question. I feel the most at peace when I am sitting in my room with the window cracked and listening to the breeze. The sound of the wind meeting the crispness of leaves to the gentle sounds of cars passing by, it’s so therapeutic to just exist. In the past, going out to dinner, meeting up with friends after work, or going for a night out brought me peace. After years of falling deeper in love with who I am, sitting in my room and listening to the world around me, and getting lost in it has been so rewarding. I’ve learned that peace is the place where the voices in your head are silenced, you are completely attuned with how you feel, and you are completely present.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://substack.com/@lostyetliving
- Instagram: ambertheaura
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