Check Out Beth Jones’ Story

Today we’d like to introduce you to Beth Jones.

Hi Beth, please kick things off for us with an introduction to yourself and your story.
In short, I’m recovering from being bullied by my own brain and am now honored to teach others how to do the same, though I understand that begs some clarification!

You know that voice in your head that constantly tells you that you’re not “good enough” or “fit enough” or “smart enough” or “enough enough” – no matter how much you achieve or how hard you work or how stellar your results are?

And that feeling of being able to get along with just about everyone, but not quite fitting in anywhere?

Or seeing ALL of the challenges people are having and the gaps in our communities and the problems of the world that need solving and feeling the immense burden to tackle as many of them as possible?

Then you, like me, are probably a giver, a doer, and a wide open heart – which definitely has a dark side.

The bully in my brain that fueled my “not enoughness” gave me resilience, a work ethic, drive, grit, and incredible problem-solving skills.

The feeling of being a perpetual outlier taught me incredible people skills – the ability to thrive in almost any environment, quick connection abilities, relationship-building tools, and a giant heart for service.

So it’s not all bad, see?

That said, they also drove me to burnout, exhaustion, and overwhelm – constantly working myself to the max, because something in me said I could’ve done better or I should be doing more.

My “Chameleon Syndrome” (as I lovingly refer to it now) pulled me away from who I actually was one tiny shade at a time. Humans need connection. The more I “shape-shifted” (even in small ways) the more I lost touch with my own voice and who I really was.

I felt disconnected from society as a whole because I didn’t really fit in anywhere in my wholeness. I felt disconnected from myself because I kept morphing little pieces here and there to fit in with whomever I was around at the time.

At that time in my life, being an outlier felt like a burden and it was painful.

It wasn’t until much later that I realized I didn’t fit in, because I wasn’t supposed to.

From the outside, I was a kind powerhouse. A gentle, effective, love-filled leader. A “nothing I can’t do”er. The go-to one. The one everyone came to for answers or help or solutions.

At that time, on the inside, it was exactly the opposite – all carefully tucked away behind a giant smile that didn’t quite touch my eyes. I was riddled with insecurity, uncertainty, people-pleasing tendencies, and completely overloaded trying to keep the house of cards together. I could hardly begin to talk about what all was lying beneath because it felt like if someone pulled one tiny thread, I to come completely undone and it terrified me.

Thus, I kept a tight lid on my emotions. What I didn’t realize then is that we can’t bottle up only some of our emotions, either the lid is on or it isn’t. I was only half-living. I wasn’t really allowing myself to feel anything in great depth. I was going through the motions of everyday life.

I was succeeding professionally working as a Realtor at that time, but being an independent professional definitely fed the exhaustion, overwhelm, and people-pleasing tendencies.

My first AHA and shift out of them and into now was my first float therapy session. It was the first time I could remember that I felt present, peaceful, and content in a long time. All of the overwhelm and feelings of never having enough time just… disappeared.

I felt like I could finally breathe and it made me wonder – “Is this what other people feel like every day?” I was shocked at the vast difference in my posture and comfortability in my body and the calmness in my heart and mind.

It was mind-blowing – which led me on my first step into fully embracing my purpose of being an outlier. After a ton of research (and a bunch of really long stories), I opened my first float therapy center in 2016 near Topsail Island, NC in Sneads Ferry.

I went on to franchise my company (Float Spa X Wellness) and teach others to bring centers to their communities. After a long wait (and a good global pandemic that froze the whole world), my first franchisees Kelli & Joe Wolf, opened a float center in Holly Springs, NC. We’re excited to have another addition to the brand family coming to the North Raleigh area very soon!

But the story doesn’t stop there. I realized that it was a stepping stone. Similar to my first float experience unlocking the doors to what else was possible to bring control, connection, and clarity to my own life, but needing more tools, learning, and experience to keep going, I found my clients going through the same things.

So many, like me, were feeling this disconnect. This pressure. The demand of performing – as spouses, business partners, CEOs, employees, friends, and neighbors. They were carrying so much weight.

When any one of the great high achievers of our modern society took their own lives, many gasped and said “How could this be?! They had it all!”

But I understood. And the people like me understand. These people are business owners and CEOs. High-level executives and independent professionals. They feel it – the pressure to have the answers. The demands. The weight of it all. The aloneness that leads us to believe no one else will get it – because it’s only others like us that will truly understand.

The challenge is that we’re all spread out and we’re all wearing the “I’ve got it covered” armor we feel like we need to wear to lead – so it’s hard to find the others.

That is, it was hard.

Now, I’ve built a table.

It has led me into personal consulting to help my private clients find their wholeness. To access the truest version of themselves so they can lead with assuredness and authenticity instead of forced confidence. So they can embrace and play to their strengths instead of exhausting themselves trying to hold the world together and be good at EVERYTHING.

To be better business partners, leaders, friends, spouses, parents, and neighbors by being who we actually are instead of who we feel like we have to be.

We’re not doing MORE. High achievers don’t need more to do. At this table, we learn how to do the right things so we can do less and achieve more.

And THAT feels like a deep breath after having been submerged for far too long.

Can you talk to us a bit about the challenges and lessons you’ve learned along the way? Looking back would you say it’s been easy or smooth in retrospect?
I’m sure you can tell from the first part of this interview that “smooth” is not how I would describe the road, but I’m grateful that all of my tumults have helped me create a smoother, faster road for others.

“Black sheep life” can be a struggle in its entirety until we find the reason we were supposed to be black sheep and get comfortable leaning out instead of leaning in trying to fit.

Leaders are often creators and innovators and disruptors. It’s imperative that we shed all the layers of what we feel like we have to be to fit in, so we can fill the roles we were designed to fill with all of our power on board. Because we do things outside the norm, we have to be innately able to trust our own paths.

I’d say the first big struggle was the length of time I stayed in this disconnect trying to toe the proverbial line when I knew it didn’t fit me. I felt it for my whole life, in retrospect, I just had no idea what to do about it.

The second big struggle was learning to let go and what to do next – which meant creating my own certainty and steadiness. When we don’t do what everyone else is doing, there’s no road map – and that gets wildly interesting without proper support and guidance.

Appreciate you sharing that. What else should we know about what you do?
I’ve created spaces, where people can be immense, loved & supported where they are now, while simultaneously challenging and shifting their thought patterns so they don’t stay stuck where they don’t want to be.

The first dip in the water is through the float centers and my broader work in the float industry, though I have a ton of clients that float and don’t move on to deeper coaching and private coaching clients that don’t float. They’re not mutually exclusive, but I’m grateful to have multiple ways to meet people where they are and provide space for what they need at the moment.

I was recently invited to join the fundraising committee for the Float Research Collective which is working to launch its first head-to-head study to research how to float – a completely natural, non-invasive tool, that measures up against opioids and benzodiazepines. With the addictions battle our country has been facing, we’re hoping to show float is at least as effective, if not more effective than those options for pain relief and relief from even clinically severe anxiety, so people know they have other options.

I’m proudest of my gift to show people their true power to choose and create the life experience they want to be living – which unlocks the contentment, freedom, deep relationships, assuredness, and certainty they didn’t think they had access to. My private clients achieve more happiness and more balanced success – meaning they’re not sacrificing their well-being, their relationships, or their families and they no longer have to choose one or the other.

What many don’t realize is that we learned the formula backward. Many are under the impression that success eventually buys us happiness and find out too late that it doesn’t.

The truth is that the happier and more fulfilled we are, the easier success comes. Think about it. Do you have your most brilliant ideas when you’re strung-out, fear-driven, and overwhelmed? Or when you’re rested, connected, and supported?

We cannot beat burnout, exhaustion, and overwhelm with more restrictions and more discipline, which is why I teach a completely different method.

My very favorite thing about what I do is that it’s an all-encompassing solution on a far deeper level than most people are used to experiencing. Often, people hire separate experts in all categories (health, business, relationships, family, finance, etc), but I’m working with the whole of the common denominator in all those environments – which is the brain + mindset that are creating all the thoughts and, thus, actions, in all of those environments.

We all have different ways of looking at and defining success. How do you define success?
Wholeness.

I’m a “Yes and…” kind of person, not an “either/or”.

To me, success is being aligned with the truest version of who we are and being able to be that on purpose. After that, the balance of time freedom and financial freedom naturally fall in line. We attract people, experiences, and opportunities that align with that, too – with who we actually are instead of who we feel like we need to be. It just makes everything so much easier.

Often, people define success by specific financial or material goals. To me and, from what I’ve distilled from my clients, it’s a feeling. It’s the freedom and assuredness to be who we are without being rattled by judgment or naysayers or critics.

That’s when the entire game changes.

Pricing:

• Float Therapy – $89 per session
• Private Consulting – $10-15k

Contact Info:

• Website: MindsetAlwaysWins.com | FloatSpaXWellness.com
• Facebook: www.facebook.com/bethjoneswellness

Image Credits
Drechsel Photography